3 Ways to Teach Your Dog to Relax around Baby (and why!)

When folks ask me training questions about preparing their dogs for their coming babies or helping their dogs to be a better companion to their small children, something related to over-excitement is usually the underlying concern. Their dog jumps because he’s excited. He barks and races around the house because he’s excited. He steals toys or food and won’t give them back because…you guessed it, he’s over-excited.

Having a dog that knows how to be calm and relaxed in the house is essential for having a stress-free transition into parent-hood (as far as having your dog involved, that is). As someone who has welcomed two babies into our family, I know that it is a huge relief to be able to tell your dog to go settle down and be relaxed and have them actually listen.

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And for those folks who don’t think it’s possible to teach a dog to be calm, still, and relaxed on command, I say to you that IT IS! And, whether you have children or not, teaching this skill is incredibly valuable to every dog who is part of society today. It’s a game-changer for dogs that want to be a part of their owners’ everyday lives because it means that they will be welcome along on trips, eating on restaurant patios, and so much more. But, for the purposes of this post, we will stick to why this skill is so important when helping your dog become the best companion possible to a baby or young child.

Help your dog learn to relax to get along with your new baby.

Why is my dog over-excited?

So let’s start with the root of the problem. Why could your dog be so excitable in the first place? There are many reasons, but it’s usually one of the following that is the culprit:

  1. Your dog is young and lacks impulse control. This isn’t to say that only young dogs lack impulse control, or that all young dogs fall on the spectrum of over-excitement. However, many young dogs (under 2 years old) are filled to the brim with youthful vigor and don’t have appropriate outlets for that energy. Providing your dog with training and consistent expectations will do wonders for the vibrant young dog!
  2. Your dog simply does not know how to NOT be busy. Many dogs have just simply never been taught the skill of being still. They pace, they wander, they run, they race, and they go, go, go until they can’t go anymore. Simply learning to stop moving all the time will be an incredible help to these dogs.
  3. Your dog is an adrenaline junkie. No, this is a real thing, though it’s not technically just adrenaline that is the culprit. Some dogs get so used to the feeling of being pumped up with excitatory neurochemicals that they start to seek out ways to get themselves over-excited, even to the point of engaging in aggressive or destructive behaviors. These are the dogs that charge to the end of the leash barking like madmen, race up and down their fencelines when they see a squirrel or destroy doors and furniture when left by themselves. The skills outlined in this post will certainly help these dogs, but they need a much more pointed and specific training approach to address these challenges.

So let’s dive in a little bit into how to teach your dog to be a calm, relaxed companion to your little baby. Our main goal is to have a dog that isn’t blasting around the house like a rocket, knocking over small children and smashing lamps in the process. We want someone who is able to lie calmly at your feet at home, or out in public. Here are 3 ways to teach your dog to relax.

Conditioned Relaxation

Relaxed dogs are much easier to train.

Conditioned Relaxation has been touched on in a couple of my other posts, and there’s a reason for it. It’s my very favorite method for teaching a dog to relax on command, it’s incredibly effective, and there is no limit to how this skill can be used.

The name pretty much speaks for itself – Conditioned, meaning “taught,” and Relaxation, meaning, well…relaxation. Teaching a dog to understand how to attain the feeling of relaxation on his own, and choosing to do it over the wild excitement of living the busy life. Conditioned Relaxation is a key part of Syn Alia Training Systems (which I go into more depth in this post about), and is all about helping the dog be calm enough to think rationally when confronted with stressful or exciting triggers.

Conditioned Relaxation is taught using a mix of massage, touch techniques, name and explain, and reinforcing relaxation.

Sit on the Dog

No, this is not actually about sitting on your dog! It is a technique developed by Margo Woods, and it is deceptively easy to do. The purpose is to teach your dog to be calm and still beside you in the down position. It teaches an exuberant dog how to not pop up every few seconds, and is an invaluable exercise for when you are trapped nursing a newborn on the couch for 30 minutes or more at a time.

To do this exercise, simply have a seat, and have your dog on the leash. Tell your dog to lie down, and put your foot on the leash. You want to give the dog enough slack that if he is in the down position beside you, he will have plenty of lead, but it will tighten up if he tries to stand, sit, or move around. If your dog tries to jump up, roll over, or otherwise has a fit about being asked to lie still for more than two seconds, that’s fine. Hold your ground and keep your foot on the leash. Your dog will tire of the temper tantrum fairly quickly, and will relax beside you. When that happens, give your dog lots of praise and treats, but don’t let them hop up again just yet. Keep them in that down position for a little while, until YOU are ready to get up and move around.

It may get exciting the first time or two that you do this exercise, but once your dog understands the gist of what you’re doing, they should melt to the floor and be calm as soon as you put the leash on the floor to put your foot on it. Before long, you won’t even need the leash on, and your dog will settle beside you out of habit.

I always start this exercise at home during a stationary time – reading a book, watching TV, or eating at a table are all great times to have your dog practice lying quietly beside you. Once you have mastered it at home with few distractions, then you can take it on the road and start adding more and more distractions, such as going to a park bench, lying beside you on a restaurant patio, or waiting at the register at Home Depot.

Place Training

Place training is very similar to teaching your dog to lie at your feet. The big difference is that you’re teaching your dog to relax in a specific, designated spot. Their “Place.” That place could be their bed, a mat, a crate, the couch, really the sky is the limit. However, you’re teaching your dog to go to their place and stay there, relaxing, until released. This exercise or command works great in conjunction with both Conditioned Relaxation and Sit on the Dog, but it also adds an element of your dog not needing to be right beside you at all times in order to be calm and relaxed.

Why your dog needs to relax.

Now for the tough part. I’m sure that after reading this post, you can imagine how nice it would be to have a dog that knows how to relax at your feet or who can go lie down independently on his bed when you tell him to. It’s definitely a relief, especially when you have had a dog whose manic energy or over-excitement has run unchecked through your house for who knows how long. When you have a baby, though, this skill becomes doubly important.

When a new baby comes, there will be times when your dog will not have your attention. A LOT of times. As the baby grows, there will be even more times when things are hectic, loud, unpredictable, and generally insane. It’s at these times that your dog can either be an extra source of stress or when they can be a little ray of calm and sunshine in the middle of a storm. Knowing how to relax when told to can help your dog go from being a serious stressor in your life to a great companion and addition to your family.

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